Sexual Intimacy – Top 10 Tips to Sizzling Sex in the Christian Bedroom!

Need to turn up the heat in your sexual relationship? Research done by Linda Waite and Kara Joyner in the most comprehensive and recent study on sexuality indicates that you are already in the best position to do so if you are married. Their study demonstrates 42% of wives said that they found sex extremely emotionally and physically satisfying, compared to just 31% of single women who had a sex partner. Forty-eight percent of husbands said sex was extremely satisfying emotionally, compared to just 37% of cohabiting men. The higher level of commitment in marriage, increased trust and security which result from the relationship is probably the reason for the high level of reported sexual satisfaction. This article gives the “Top 10 Heating Things Up Tips” as communicated by successful wives.

Tip 10: Talk About It! Communication is critical – even if you feel awkward (research shows many do!), ask questions and share in your desires – then act on both his and yours! Better communication = better sex!

Tip 9: Schedule Sex! Know how often he wants intercourse and put “Think Sex” or “TS” on your calendar, then look at it every morning, so you can spend the day warming up your body by warming up your mind. Intentionality = greater frequency. Something we all need to remember, studies show most men experience intimacy through physical intercourse, while women experience intimacy through physical relationship. Satisfy this need in him and he is more likely to satisfy the intimacy need in you.

Tip 8: Get 7-8 Hours of Sleep a Night! Rested bodies generate the necessary hormones and energy we need to function happily in the bedroom. Recent research also shows that 7-8 hours are considered “regenerative” sleep, which slows down the aging process. 7-8 Hours Sleep a Night = Fewer Aching Joints, Weight Loss, and Fewer Wrinkles, which can all = Better Sex!

Tip 7: Exercise! 20 – 30 minutes 5 times a week of moderate will significantly improve your physical condition. Increased physical strength and health = stable hormone production = more vaginal lubrication, increased blood flow, and production of oxytocin, the relational “bonding” hormone.

Tip 6: Buy Something Sassy! Lingerie often makes a woman feel sexy and if we feel that way, we will act that way! Get something that compliments your figure as it is, rather than as you wish it would be. Accent the positives and cover up the lesser than!

Tip 5: Exercise! Include strength training and moderate muscle building exercises in your work out. Increased muscle tone = faster fat metabolism, more calories burned by muscles = increased confidence = more fun in the bedroom.

Tip 4: Exercise! Increased muscle tone = increased testosterone production = increased sexual desire.

Tip 3: Read a Good Book on Sex Together! This will provide opportunity for communication and give you ideas…

Tip 2: Try Something New! Keep it interesting by giving a new position a try. And remember, 70% of women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, so figure out how to work that in when you can! Remember too, however, that your “frequency rates” may be different between you and your husband, so if you don’t need to be “goal oriented” each time, let him know that, too.

Tip 1: Initiate! Nothing feeds a man’s soul more than knowing he’s desired by his wife. If he’s been rejected in the past, this is an easy way to increase the frequency of your lovemaking. He may not be approaching you because he’s worried about rejection.

Bottom Line: God created sex and He created our bodies with pleasure in mind. Step outside your comfort zone in this area frequently and it will increase intimacy between you and your husband!

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Nina Roesner is the Executive Director of Greater Impact Ministries, Inc., a non-profit corporation that delivers life changing training for wives, leaders and speakers. She has seen hundreds of lives turned around by women learning the language of respect and applying the principles taught in Daughters of Sarah, a 12 week course that creates greater connections with God, spouses and our strengths. For more information, visit us online today!

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