When it comes to sex, one man’s “normal” is another man’s “are you crazy?” and that applies equally to sex toys. Practitioners of what might be termed “vanilla” sex (for its safeness and conformity to sexual norms) may sometimes make profitable use of sex toys, but they are unlikely to want to try something too unusual. Exploring options like sex toys can improve sexual and penis health, but for those who want to keep that exploration within “normal” bounds, the following sex toys should probably be avoided. (Then again, many men who consider themselves “typical” in their sexual outlook have discovered an unexpected fondness for kink or the “unusual,” so some may not want to be so quick to close the door on these.)
Before my eyes ever saw this world, a very determined mother proclaimed during her entire pregnancy, that she would not have a boy. My arrival was her bitter disappointment. After being abused for eighteen months, I was adopted into a conservative Adventist home. As I grew, so did my new parent’s concern. I liked beauty pageants, dressing up, and wanting to play with dolls, rather than trucks and other boy toys. They sought help from various sources during my developmental years, but they found none. I loved Jesus, went to church, church schools, sang in church choirs and even read the Bible to patients in the Adventist nursing home, but the nagging desires for male companionship and attention haunted me from my earliest memories.
What is sex therapy? It is a form of psychotherapy. In therapy, people can work with a therapist either on their own or with their spouse or partner. The issues can range from childhood trauma, abuse, neglect or intimacy to sexual concerns such as feelings or function. It is a helpful way for adults, regardless of sexual orientation, age or gender to work through their problems. In particular, sex therapy is an important part of the recovery process for many people who have struggled with sex addiction.